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Only God Can Judge Me?

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As I was driving to work today, I was listening to Matt Chandler, from The Village Church, and he said something that got me thinking:

Our culture loves the law, and justice, and judgment; we love it! How many television shows are built around detectives, or courtrooms, or lawyers? All of the ones that aren’t about doctors. We so love judges and justice, that we literally have shows that are about judges.

Matt Chandler is right. Ever since the dawn of television, there have been shows about law, justice and judgment. From Dragnet to Adam-12 and Law & Order to CSI. Beginning in the 1980′s, shows like The People’s Court took things even further, by bringing the home audience into the courtroom, and that continued on into the twentieth century with shows like Judge Judy and Judge Joe Brown. And while those courtroom shows are likely fictional, if you want to see the real thing, just turn to CNN or Fox News and watch the latest media circus……er, trial. We are obsessed with justice and judgment – and yes, the two go hand in hand. Which is why it’s ironic that our culture preaches “Only God can judge you.”

Really?

I get that it’s in reference to moral judgments, but what’s disturbing is when people claim “Only God can judge me” is found in the Bible. And they’re fully prepared to point to Matthew 7:1 to back up their claim; but when we read the verses immediately following, we see Christ is not telling us to not judge, he is telling us to not judge hypocritically. As he says in verse 7: “…take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.” We see judgment more clearly in verse 8, where Christ tells us: “Do not give dogs what is holy, and do not throw your pearls before pigs, lest they trample them underfoot and turn to attack you.” How are we supposed to know who the dogs and pigs are without proper judgment and discernment? And that’s the key word: PROPER. If we were honest with ourselves and each other, we all judge. Even those who have “Only God can judge me” tattooed on their body judge people on a daily basis. The guy who cut you off in traffic, the person weaving all over the road because they were playing on their phone, the barista at Starbucks who was a little short with you this morning…… what did you think to yourself about them? What did you say to others about them? Did you pray God would bless them? Did you say a little prayer for them? Every time I see a woman walk into my store, wearing stockings for pants and letting it all hang out up top, my first thought isn’t “Oh, what a lovely young woman!” I’m sorry – it just isn’t. The same goes for every rude person I’ve encountered in my life. I’m not thinking, “What a great sense of humor”, or “They’re such a great conversationalist”; I’m usually thinking “What an asshole.” Yet I’m sure I’ve called someone an asshole, when they were just having a bad day. I’m sure I’ve been an asshole to complete strangers, and for no reason, other than fate deemed that they be in my path that day.

The point is, we want judgment, and, I would argue, need judgment. Our obsession with it only shows our craving for it. The problem is too many of us judge unrighteously. When we start to take into account our own failed, sinful, broken lives, we might find righteous judgment.

Merry Christmas?

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Several years ago, a noticeable change occurred in the retail world – clerks and cashiers began saying “Happy Holidays” instead of “Merry Christmas”. At first, no one really had a problem with it. Many Christians simply chalked it up as another example of America being a post-Christian nation, and people of other faiths (or no faith at all) didn’t care.

That is, until it was leaked that several big name retailers were actually instructing employees to not say “Merry Christmas”, because it was considered to be insensitive to those of other faiths. Rather, they were instructed to say the all-inclusive phrase, “Happy Holidays”. This, of course, gave many people all the ammo they needed to wage war against post-Christian America, and it has continued every November/December ever since.

This brings to mind two trains of thought: first, why am I supposed to be offended? We’re talking about someone I don’t know, whose religious preference I am unaware of, wishing me a happy holiday. I don’t know what religious preference they claim, if they even claim one at all. Why should I expect a Wiccan to wish me a Merry Christmas? Or a Muslim? Or an atheist? As redundant as it may be for them (since they’re saying it to person, after person, after person), and as generic as it may sound (since it is all-inclusive), they are still blessing me! They don’t have to say “Happy Holidays”; they could just say, “Get your shit and get out!”

Secondly, I’ve noticed a trend amongst more conservative Christians, and that is to use the phrase, “Merry Christmas” almost as a taunt of sorts. The scenario generally follows like this: as a cashier is finishing up with a customer, they thank the customer for shopping at their store and then wish them “Happy Holidays”. The customer responds with “Merry Christmas”, to which the cashier says “thank you”, or nods, or whatever. But instead of leaving well enough alone, the customer says “Merry Christmas” again, this time a bit indignantly, as if they are attempting to goad the cashier into saying “Merry Christmas”; it’s as if they think that if they can get the cashier to switch back to “Merry Christmas”, they’ve won one for Jesus! And yes, I have actually seen that happen, and on more than one occasion. Maybe I’m missing the point, but I don’t think that is a good follow-through on Matthew 22:39. And for those wondering, the original Greek translation of neighbor reads, “one associate of you”; in other words, not necessarily a literal neighbor or friend, but simply someone you associate with. If that weren’t enough, in Matthew 5:43-48 Jesus commands us to love our enemies; so even if you went all the way to the Westboro end of the spectrum and labeled everyone not like yourself an enemy, you’re still commanded to love them.

Is getting offended by a simple phrase love?

Am I showing love by making an ass of myself in protest of a simple phrase?

Or is it just me? Am I the only one who feels this way?

Personal Responsibility

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I work in a liquor store, so I should know by now that taking responsibility for one’s self is not a concept most people these days subscribe to. Yet, it still causes me to take a step back when someone actually suggests that I let someone else take the fall for my mistake.

Maybe it’s because of the way I was raised.

Maybe it’s because I’ve learned the hard way that my mistakes and sins will catch up to me.

Maybe it’s because being an adult means taking responsibility for ALL your actions AND inactions, good and bad.

Rant over.

One Christian’s Thoughts on Gay Marriage

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I should probably share a little personal history before diving into this post. Most of you know I was raised in church. Some of my earliest memories are of church services. From a very early age, I was taught that homosexuality is a sin, but that we love the sinner and hate the sin.

But I didn’t see a whole lot of that love in action.

Sure, we would profess with our lips that we loved sinners, but, I didn’t really see too many sinners. I’ve lived my whole life in the South, where “everyone’s a Christian”, and those who are different get cast aside, or cast out entirely. I look back and wonder, how would we have reacted if a gay man or lesbian had walked into church, sat through a service and left unchanged?

Would we have invited them back, or would we have made up an excuse and moved on?

This is something that has been weighing heavily on my mind for a few years now. As Christians, we believe that, because of Adam, everyone is born into sin. Some even go so far as to say that each of us is predisposed, from birth, to a specific sin, which would explain how, from a young age, some people struggle constantly with lust, and yet they have no issues with anger, while others don’t have any problems with lust, but as far back as they can remember, they’ve always had a temper.

But when is the last time you heard a Christian say they struggle with same-sex attraction?

Probably not often, and for good reason – I’ve read a few stories from Christians who confessed to struggling with same-sex attraction being berated, forced from their churches and one, who was the worship pastor at his church, was fired on the spot. Not because he had committed a sin, but because he struggled with lust. I wonder if his lusts had been heterosexual, would he still have his job? Not to mention that having a predisposition to sin negates the “homosexuality is a choice” argument.

And there’s more out there. A lot more – but they’re scared to share their struggles with others for the very reasons listed above. Yet James 5:16 tells us to confess our sins to one another and pray for one another, so that we may be healed. In this scripture, the word “healed” isn’t just in reference to a physical ailment – it’s also talking about spiritual ailments, i.e. SIN. What James is saying is, even though we are now on this journey with Christ, we’re not perfect – we’re still sinners. The trick is to have someone to go to when you’re struggling, to confess to when you’ve sinned and to ask us the hard questions, the questions that make us uncomfortable, but that keep us accountable. Otherwise, one sin will turn into another, then another and another, until it’s a lifestyle.

In case you haven’t figured it out yet, I believe you can be a Christian and gay, as long as you are pursuing a relationship with Jesus and not acting on your lusts. It took me a long time to come to that realization, because for years all I heard was it’s either straight or not, and if it’s “not”, then you’re living in a sin that you chose, because you were not born that way. Never mind the fact that you may not actually be doing anything sinful – the fact that you aren’t attracted to the opposite sex is bad enough. Or at least that’s how it was presented to me. But what is the difference between a heterosexual pursuing a relationship with Christ and remaining sexually pure, and a homosexual pursuing a relationship with Christ and remaining sexually pure?

All that being said, I believe the Bible is very clear when it talks about homosexuality. Not same-sex lust or struggles, but actually living a homosexual lifestyle. Romans 1:25-27 says that because we have exchanged the truth for a lie and worshiped and served the creation and not the creator, God has given us up to homosexual acts and relationships, which the scripture refers to as “dishonorable passions”. Paul writes in 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 that those who practice homosexuality (among other sins) will not inherit the kingdom of God. So, according to the Bible, the practice of homosexuality is a sin.

This brings me to the title of this post. Over the last decade, there has been much debate concerning gay marriage. Some are for, others are against. Some are against gay marriage, but for civil unions. Others are for or against both, and some even want to amend the constitution (national and/or state) to more clearly define the boundaries of marriage. When it comes to gay marriage and civil unions, I’m not going to tell you how to vote or what to believe – that’s between you and God. But John Piper recently wrote an excellent blog post concerning this debate, and while I don’t agree with him 100%, one thing that stood out to me is this statement:

Humans don’t create or define marriage. God does.

If the Bible is true, a homosexual couple getting married does not put them in right-standing with God any more than a unmarried heterosexual couple claiming they are “married in God’s eyes” makes everything OK with God. If both couples are sexually active, according to the Bible, they are both sinning, because they are both acting outside the Biblical boundaries of marriage.

So, as far as I’m concerned, I am no longer against gay marriage. I am also not in support of it either. I’m just indifferent, because, either way, it doesn’t change what the Bible says about marriage and homosexuality.

***Note from Author***

I realized after re-reading my post this afternoon that I left something out.

While I don’t condone gay marriage (or homosexuality), I don’t believe legislation is the answer. To use abortion as an example, pro-life activists have spent millions, if not billions, in attempts to use the law to decrease, and eventually end, abortion. However, thousands of abortions still occur daily. And while abortions have slowly began to decrease recently, it’s likely due to improvements in technologies such as ultrasound, not the result of legislation.

My point is, while my faith plays a large role in how I vote (as it should for every Christian), I don’t believe legislating morality is the answer. Amending the constitution to prevent gay marriage won’t stop gays from being gay.

For those interested in going further with this topic, Matt Chandler of The Village Church in Dallas, TX held an excellent Q&A on the subject of homosexuality as part of their Culture and Theology series last year, which can be viewed by clicking this link. The video lasts a little over 37 minutes.

And they will know us by……

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what we wear?

what we listen to?

what we watch?

who our friends are?

 

It’s nearly 4:00 AM as I write this. No matter what I do to try and change my sleeping habits, lately, I find myself most comfortable as a night owl. Anyways, I was flipping through channels and came across a pastor who said something that made my ears perk up a bit:

America needs change, and in order to change America, we have to change culture first. We need a Christian culture! The problem is, we’ve got so many Christians trying to blend in with their existing cultures, that you can’t tell who’s a Christian and who isn’t. We’re supposed to be different, peculiar. We’re salt and light, that city on a hill which can’t be hidden.

Hmmm…… I’m no Bobby Flay, but last time I checked, the purpose of salt is to enhance the food in which it is used. No salt, and the flavors are rather bland, blending together in a seamless, cardboard-like taste. Use too much and the dish becomes offensive and inedible. In other words, salt is supposed to blend in with the other ingredients and change the dish from the inside out. Much like salt, light, when used properly, is one of man’s greatest tools. The sun lights our days, and the moon our nights. Artificial lights allow us to see regardless of the time of day or the conditions outside, and if all else fails, we’ve got fire. But like salt, when there is too much light, it becomes offensive; hence inventions such as sun visors, baseball caps, sunglasses and tinted windows.

If there is one thing we, as Christians, can learn from the past 60 years of Christianity, it’s that rejecting the culture of the world and creating our own sub-culture has done nothing but separate and alienate us from the very people we are called to reach (Matthew 28:18-20). I’m not saying that it’s wrong to have Christian music, Christian movies, Christian fiction or Christian schools. Nor am I saying you shouldn’t avoid certain things – I’d bet we’ve all become a bit desensitized by the rampant and unnecessary use of sex and violence in entertainment. Even PG movies have a little bit of both. But the way we run from culture and hide in our Christian bubble, thinking sin can’t get to us in there, is ridiculous. It’s akin to the little kid that takes his ball and runs home because he didn’t get his way. All it does is further separate us from sinners, and whether you like it or not, the gospel isn’t going to preach itself.

So to finish up where the title begins, the world won’t know us because of what we wear, or what we listen to, or what we watch, or who we hang out with, because all those things are outward. I can change my shirt almost as quickly as I can change the channel on the TV. Christ said that all people will know we are His disciples by our love (John 13:34-35).

The Difference

"Broken Heartless", by Ron Gamble

I need to state up front that this post is not a knock against those who have gotten divorced. I realize there are some who need to get divorced due to abusive situations. I also realize it takes two to make a marriage work, and if one party is lazy and unwilling to do what it takes to make their marriage work, the other party eventually has to make a choice.

I’ve yet to be married; therefore, I’ve never experienced divorce from the perspective of a divorcee.

However, I have survived the divorce of my parents.

Likewise, many friends of mine have shared that hell.

And even though I’ve only been out of high school a decade, I’ve seen several of my peers who graduated with me go through divorce.

The fact is, we as a society don’t take marriage seriously anymore – we treat it the same way we treat a breakup. Even in the church! These days, people take a rental car contract more seriously than a marriage contract! This is a rather off the cuff post, so I’m forgoing the statistics, but seriously, if you need statistics to show you that our society has a marriage problem, you’ve been living under a rock for the last 60 years. I want to leave you with a quote I just heard from comedian Nick Griffin. He intended it to be humorous, and it is. But it is also very poignant, and something everyone who is not currently married needs to hear BEFORE saying I do.

The difference between a breakup and a divorce is the difference between being scratched by a cat and raped by a bear.

Heavy Drinkers Outlive Nondrinkers?

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I was browsing my Time iOS app last night and came across an interesting story: Why Do Heavy Drinkers Outlive Nondrinkers?

Yes, you read that correctly. According to a recent study, heavy drinkers, on average, outlive those who abstain from alcohol. The study finds that, “even though heavy drinking is associated with higher risk for cirrhosis and several types of cancer (particularly cancers in the mouth and esophagus), heavy drinkers are less likely to die than people who don’t drink, even if they never had a problem with alcohol.”

Just for the record (as if you didn’t already know), I DO NOT support heavy drinking. I believe the Bible is closed to heavy drinking, but open to moderate drinking, and of course, abstinence. I’m also not too keen on how Time defines “moderate drinking” as “one to three drinks per day”. That may be moderate for some, but I know quite a few people for whom that would be too much. It really depends on your body and what you’re drinking. The real find (at least for me) in the study was that among the three categories (heavy drinker, moderate drinkers and those who abstain), moderate drinkers have the lowest mortality rate. So while this study is not the first to discover and promote the benefits of moderate drinking, this is the first one I’ve seen to find that overall, moderate drinkers live longer, healthier lives than nondrinkers.

The Time.com article guesses at some explanations, but I want to know what you think.

Reading… or Lack Thereof

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I grew up in a reading family.

My mother read often, my father read often, my grandmother read often, so, it was passed down to me. I read a lot.

Not as often as I did when I was younger, but I still tend to average one book a month. And while I enjoy fiction (Stephen King is my favorite), the past few years I’ve leaned more and more toward non-fiction. Specifically, religious non-fiction. Theology, methodology, Christian living, etc. – you name it and I’ve probably either read it or, at the very least, own it (I’ve got a few stacks of books to work through).

But I digress.

Back to my childhood and teen years.

I thought I was the poor kid in school, because we shopped at Walmart instead of the mall; because I wore Levi’s, Lee and Wrangler’s instead of Girbaud, No Fear and Mossimo; because I was still using a cassette Walkman when everyone else had a CD Walkman.

I didn’t realize it then, but I was actually privileged.

I had a mother who hounded me on my grammatical and spelling skills and pushed me to read everyday. She would limit how much time I could watch TV, forcing me to do things that actually stimulated brain activity (reading, writing, playing guitar, having discussions, etc.). It wasn’t until my freshman year in college that I realized just how privileged I’d been.

Do you remember, in grade school, that kid in class who, when called upon to read aloud, would act like they were having problems reading? And yet we all knew they could read just fine?

There were several of those in my English 101 class at ULM.

Or so I thought.

It wasn’t until our professor tried a little experiment that the truth came out. Our professor split us into groups of four or five and had us exchange rough drafts of a paper we’d all been working on, so we could grade each other. I and three other students in our group were graduates of local high schools. The fifth student in our group was an exchange student from a country in Eastern Europe (I can’t remember which one). After class our professor pulled me aside and asked about the papers I’d read. All I could tell her was, “The exchange student, who can barely speak the English language, has a better understanding of writing it than the others in that group.”

I’m not joking.

The guy who could barely speak English could read and write better than several “English as a first language” students in our class. What’s worse is I couldn’t even finish one paper because I literally could not decipher what words the student had attempted to spell, and it wasn’t a handwriting issue! HOW DO YOU MAKE IT TO HIGH SCHOOL, LET ALONE GRADUATE, IF YOU CAN’T READ OR WRITE YOUR NATIVE LANGUAGE!!!

Why am I harping on this subject nearly ten years later? Because, sadly, things haven’t improved. I know teens who actually believe leet speak (the version of shorthand originally used in instant messaging programs, AKA text speak) is part of the English language!

On top of that, I’ve seen some reports and statistics lately that were a bit intriguing. Some were good…… and some were downright scary. Here’s some to read over:

  • Long-term studies have shown that mentally stimulating activities (reading, writing, crossword puzzles, board & card games, group discussions, crafts and playing music) lead to a 30 to 50% decrease in the risk of developing memory loss compared to people who did not do those activities. Those same studies show that participating in mentally stimulating activities at least twice a week leads to a much lower risk of dementia and Alzheimer’s. – from Preventing Dementia: Mental Stimulation
  • Delays in learning to read result in delays in the accumulation of reading volume. This places the child behind his or her peers in developing cognitive skills such as vocabulary, background knowledge, and familiarity with complex syntactic structures. – from Can Reading Make You Smarter?
  • “In studying reading volume over against more general abilities such as IQ, it was found ‘that even when performance is statistically equated for reading comprehension and general ability, reading volume is still a very powerful predictor of vocabulary and knowledge differences. …and is not simply an indirect indicator of ability.”’ – from Can Reading Make You Smarter?
  • “Students who get off to a fast start in reading are more likely to read more over the years, and, furthermore, this very act of reading can help children compensate for modest levels of IQ by building their vocabulary and general knowledge. In other words, IQ is not the only variable that counts in making a child smarter. Those who read a lot will enhance the IQ that they were born with; that is, reading will make them smarter.” – from Can Reading Make You Smarter?
  • Reading books is an active mental process, improves your vocabulary, concentration, focus, creativity and memory. – from 10 Benefits of Reading!
  • “The educational careers of 25 to 40 percent of American children are imperiled because they don’t read well enough, quickly enough, or easily enough.” – Committee on Preventing Reading Difficulties in Young Children of the National Research Council
  • “It is estimated that more than $2 billion is spent each year on students who repeat a grade because they have reading problems.” – U.S. Department of Health and Human Services
  • “Since 1983, more than 10 million Americans reached the 12th grade without having learned to read at a basic level. In the same period, more than 6 million Americans dropped out of high school altogether.” – A Nation Still At Risk, U.S. Department of Education, 1999
  • “Over one million children drop out of school each year, costing the nation over $240 billion in lost earnings, forgone tax revenues, and expenditures for social services.” – McQuillan, 1998
  • “It is estimated that the cost of illiteracy to business and the taxpayer is $20 billion per year.” – Illiteracy: A National Crisis, United Way
  • “More than three out of four of those on welfare, 85% of unwed mothers and 68% of those arrested are illiterate. About three in five of America’s prison inmates are illiterate.” – Washington Literacy Council
  • “Approximately 50 percent of the nation’s unemployed youth age 16-21 are functional illiterate, with virtually no prospects of obtaining good jobs.” – U.S. Department of Health and Human Services
  • “44 million adults in the U.S. can’t read well enough to read a simple story to a child.” – National Adult Literacy Survey, U.S. Department of Education
  • “60 percent of America’s prison inmates are illiterate and 85% of all juvenile offenders have reading problems.” – U.S. Department of Education
  • “U.S. adults ranked 12th among 20 high income countries in composite (document, prose, and quantitative) literacy.” – Educational Testing Service
  • “More than 20 percent of adults read at or below a fifth-grade level – far below the level needed to earn a living wage.” – National Institute for Literacy
  • “Children who have not developed some basic literacy skills by the time they enter school are 3 – 4 times more likely to drop out in later years.” – National Adult Literacy Survey, U.S. Department of Education
  • “46% of American adults cannot understand the label on their prescription medicine.” – Journal of American Medical Association
  • “21 million Americans can’t read at all, 45 million are marginally illiterate and one-fifth of high school graduates can’t read their diplomas.” – Department of Justice
  • 1/3 of high school graduates never read another book for the rest of their lives. – Para Publishing
  • 42 percent of college graduates never read another book after college. – Para Publishing
  • 80 percent of U.S. families did not buy or read a book last year (2007) – Para Publishing

HT: Donald Miller and Kari Calhoun

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