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It’s that time of the week again – time to run through my favorite news and noteworthy posts from the past seven days. Hope you enjoy!

Is “negotiated infidelity” good for your relationship? Author and former mistress Holly Hill thinks so. But only as long as there’s boundaries. Christian author & blogger Jason Boyett gives the best response to Holly Hill that I’ve read.

“The Jesus kind of love, the love that speaks the truth and yet does not try to control, is supernatural. It is a very confident position and it comes from God. Will it always win? No, but the point is not to win, the point is to love, even to our deaths.”

Instead of asking God to clean out the cobwebs in your life, try asking him to kill the spider.

Lucy is back, this time writing about what sickness taught her about love and the one thing many fear the most – death.

Have we exported a dangerous gospel to our brothers and sisters in Africa?

James 3:17 says: “But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere.” Tony Morgan analyzes this verse in The Wisdom Test.

“Perhaps the people who should praise God the most are the people who can praise Him for what He has kept them from.” – Steven Furtick on Grace Redefined

Sharing our stories, or testimonies, is important, but Anne Jackson makes a great suggestion – let’s also begin sharing the story of now.

“As Christians sent into our respective cities, we are called to be the very best citizens of that city.” – Tim Gaydos on Missional Activism

1/3 of high school graduates never read another book for the rest of their lives, and 42% of college graduates follow suit. I blogged about this earlier this week but here is Donald Miller’s original post which inspired mine.

In light of the judicial overturning of Proposition 8, Carl Trueman makes some insightful observations concerning the generational divide amongst Christians. Mike Foster also has a very insightful observation on the Prop 8 situation and the lack of grace being shown from both sides.

How are Christians supposed to relate to the ten commandments? John Piper gives his answer in the latest Ask Pastor John.

Entitlement

If there’s one thing that has been bugging me more than anything else lately, it’s this attitude of entitlement I see all around me.

On TV, in music, in the people I see around town, even in churches (prosperity gospel sound familiar?)…… this attitude that even when I do nothing, the world owes me something.

As if the world owes you something just because you exist.

I saw this often when I was working for Boost Mobile – people thought WE (Boost Mobile) owed them something because THEY (the customer) didn’t read the terms of service before purchasing their phone.

Because, you know, it’s Boost Mobile’s fault that you used up $50 in under an hour by purchasing ringtones.

Maybe it’s an American thing (manifest destiny sound familiar?)

Anyways, I was reading Luke’s Gospel this morning, and one passage really jumped out at me.

Will any one of you who has a servant plowing or keeping sheep say to him when he has come in from the field, “Come at once and recline at table?” Will he not rather say to him, “Prepare supper for me, and dress properly, and serve me while I eat and drink, and afterward you will eat and drink?” Does he thank the servant because he did what was commanded? So you also, when you have done all that you were commanded, say, We are unworthy servants; we have only done what was our duty.

Luke 17:7-10 (ESV)

In other words, do what is expected of you (at work, home, school, church, etc.) and don’t expect any more than what has been promised. And if you’ve done nothing, then you can expect nothing.

Rant over.

Reading… or Lack Thereof

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I grew up in a reading family.

My mother read often, my father read often, my grandmother read often, so, it was passed down to me. I read a lot.

Not as often as I did when I was younger, but I still tend to average one book a month. And while I enjoy fiction (Stephen King is my favorite), the past few years I’ve leaned more and more toward non-fiction. Specifically, religious non-fiction. Theology, methodology, Christian living, etc. – you name it and I’ve probably either read it or, at the very least, own it (I’ve got a few stacks of books to work through).

But I digress.

Back to my childhood and teen years.

I thought I was the poor kid in school, because we shopped at Walmart instead of the mall; because I wore Levi’s, Lee and Wrangler’s instead of Girbaud, No Fear and Mossimo; because I was still using a cassette Walkman when everyone else had a CD Walkman.

I didn’t realize it then, but I was actually privileged.

I had a mother who hounded me on my grammatical and spelling skills and pushed me to read everyday. She would limit how much time I could watch TV, forcing me to do things that actually stimulated brain activity (reading, writing, playing guitar, having discussions, etc.). It wasn’t until my freshman year in college that I realized just how privileged I’d been.

Do you remember, in grade school, that kid in class who, when called upon to read aloud, would act like they were having problems reading? And yet we all knew they could read just fine?

There were several of those in my English 101 class at ULM.

Or so I thought.

It wasn’t until our professor tried a little experiment that the truth came out. Our professor split us into groups of four or five and had us exchange rough drafts of a paper we’d all been working on, so we could grade each other. I and three other students in our group were graduates of local high schools. The fifth student in our group was an exchange student from a country in Eastern Europe (I can’t remember which one). After class our professor pulled me aside and asked about the papers I’d read. All I could tell her was, “The exchange student, who can barely speak the English language, has a better understanding of writing it than the others in that group.”

I’m not joking.

The guy who could barely speak English could read and write better than several “English as a first language” students in our class. What’s worse is I couldn’t even finish one paper because I literally could not decipher what words the student had attempted to spell, and it wasn’t a handwriting issue! HOW DO YOU MAKE IT TO HIGH SCHOOL, LET ALONE GRADUATE, IF YOU CAN’T READ OR WRITE YOUR NATIVE LANGUAGE!!!

Why am I harping on this subject nearly ten years later? Because, sadly, things haven’t improved. I know teens who actually believe leet speak (the version of shorthand originally used in instant messaging programs, AKA text speak) is part of the English language!

On top of that, I’ve seen some reports and statistics lately that were a bit intriguing. Some were good…… and some were downright scary. Here’s some to read over:

  • Long-term studies have shown that mentally stimulating activities (reading, writing, crossword puzzles, board & card games, group discussions, crafts and playing music) lead to a 30 to 50% decrease in the risk of developing memory loss compared to people who did not do those activities. Those same studies show that participating in mentally stimulating activities at least twice a week leads to a much lower risk of dementia and Alzheimer’s. – from Preventing Dementia: Mental Stimulation
  • Delays in learning to read result in delays in the accumulation of reading volume. This places the child behind his or her peers in developing cognitive skills such as vocabulary, background knowledge, and familiarity with complex syntactic structures. – from Can Reading Make You Smarter?
  • “In studying reading volume over against more general abilities such as IQ, it was found ‘that even when performance is statistically equated for reading comprehension and general ability, reading volume is still a very powerful predictor of vocabulary and knowledge differences. …and is not simply an indirect indicator of ability.”’ – from Can Reading Make You Smarter?
  • “Students who get off to a fast start in reading are more likely to read more over the years, and, furthermore, this very act of reading can help children compensate for modest levels of IQ by building their vocabulary and general knowledge. In other words, IQ is not the only variable that counts in making a child smarter. Those who read a lot will enhance the IQ that they were born with; that is, reading will make them smarter.” – from Can Reading Make You Smarter?
  • Reading books is an active mental process, improves your vocabulary, concentration, focus, creativity and memory. – from 10 Benefits of Reading!
  • “The educational careers of 25 to 40 percent of American children are imperiled because they don’t read well enough, quickly enough, or easily enough.” – Committee on Preventing Reading Difficulties in Young Children of the National Research Council
  • “It is estimated that more than $2 billion is spent each year on students who repeat a grade because they have reading problems.” – U.S. Department of Health and Human Services
  • “Since 1983, more than 10 million Americans reached the 12th grade without having learned to read at a basic level. In the same period, more than 6 million Americans dropped out of high school altogether.” – A Nation Still At Risk, U.S. Department of Education, 1999
  • “Over one million children drop out of school each year, costing the nation over $240 billion in lost earnings, forgone tax revenues, and expenditures for social services.” – McQuillan, 1998
  • “It is estimated that the cost of illiteracy to business and the taxpayer is $20 billion per year.” – Illiteracy: A National Crisis, United Way
  • “More than three out of four of those on welfare, 85% of unwed mothers and 68% of those arrested are illiterate. About three in five of America’s prison inmates are illiterate.” – Washington Literacy Council
  • “Approximately 50 percent of the nation’s unemployed youth age 16-21 are functional illiterate, with virtually no prospects of obtaining good jobs.” – U.S. Department of Health and Human Services
  • “44 million adults in the U.S. can’t read well enough to read a simple story to a child.” – National Adult Literacy Survey, U.S. Department of Education
  • “60 percent of America’s prison inmates are illiterate and 85% of all juvenile offenders have reading problems.” – U.S. Department of Education
  • “U.S. adults ranked 12th among 20 high income countries in composite (document, prose, and quantitative) literacy.” – Educational Testing Service
  • “More than 20 percent of adults read at or below a fifth-grade level – far below the level needed to earn a living wage.” – National Institute for Literacy
  • “Children who have not developed some basic literacy skills by the time they enter school are 3 – 4 times more likely to drop out in later years.” – National Adult Literacy Survey, U.S. Department of Education
  • “46% of American adults cannot understand the label on their prescription medicine.” – Journal of American Medical Association
  • “21 million Americans can’t read at all, 45 million are marginally illiterate and one-fifth of high school graduates can’t read their diplomas.” – Department of Justice
  • 1/3 of high school graduates never read another book for the rest of their lives. – Para Publishing
  • 42 percent of college graduates never read another book after college. – Para Publishing
  • 80 percent of U.S. families did not buy or read a book last year (2007) – Para Publishing

HT: Donald Miller and Kari Calhoun

Turn the Other Cheek

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I was unable to sleep last night and while browsing the web I came across the Willow Creek Community Church website. Remembering they were supposed to have Rob Bell teach recently, I decided to poke around and see if the video was there. Sure enough, it was. So I figured, “Hey, I can kill an hour”, and decided to watch.


It was the best hour of teaching I’ve heard in quite some time.

Regardless of what you believe about Rob Bell, you need to watch this message. There’s nothing heretical in it, nor is there anything blasphemous (and to be honest, I’ve never personally heard Bell teach anything heretical or blasphemous). I recommend watching the whole message (it lasts about an hour). Note: if the correct video doesn’t autoplay, choose from the list below the main video.)

Anyways, here’s my notes:

“Familiarity breeds unfamiliarity.”
- Dallas Willard

I.E. You hear something so often that it loses its edge, vitality and life.

Scripture text: Matthew 5:38-41

You have heard that it was said, An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth. But I say to you, Do not resist the one who is evil. But if anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also. And if anyone would sue you and take your tunic, let him have your cloak as well. And if anyone forces you to go one mile, go with him two miles.

resist – “violent revenge” in the original Greek.

Turn the other cheek – often taught that if you’re really serious about following Jesus, then when someone wrongs you, when you suffer injustice, you’re just supposed to take it, that’s what Jesus wants you to do.

“If you’re a woman in an abusive relationship, you’re just supposed to ‘turn the other cheek’ and take it, making Jesus the founder of the First Church of the Spineless.”

“Is there anything else going on here that might inform what it means to ‘turn the other cheek’?”

First century culture was hierarchal, and violence was no exception. There were two ways to hit a person: a punch with a closed right fist, and a slap with the back of the right hand. Punches were reserved for equals, slaps were reserved for those who you deemed ‘lower’.

Therefore, in that culture, if someone hit you on the right cheek (as the verse says), that meant they were slapping you with the back of their right hand – insulting you, deeming you a lesser being. When Jesus said “turn to him the other also”, was he saying by turning the other cheek we are forcing our oppressors to treat us as equal?

Jesus doesn’t stop there.

In the first century you generally wore two garments: a tunic and a cloak. So Jesus says that if you find yourself in a position where someone sues you for your tunic, give them your cloak also, exposing your nakedness. In that culture, the shame of nakedness was not on the one who was naked, but the one who saw the nakedness (e.g. Noah). Who has the power now?

“And if anyone forces you to go one mile, go with him two miles.” – a subtle reference to Roman military law. By law, a Roman soldier could order any civilian to carry his pack, but only up to one mile. Generally, we have what to carry packs in the first century? Donkeys and mules. But Jesus says, “go with him two miles.” How would it look if, after carrying a soldier’s pack for a mile, you kept walking? If his commander saw that, what would happen? Who has the power now?

Our world generally teaches us that when you are wronged, you have two options – do nothing or return the wrong.

  1. Do Nothing – passivity, which leaves you powerless and always leads to despair.
  2. Return the Wrong – revenge, which always escalates, keeping the pain in circulation (relational Pong).

Was Jesus presenting a third way?

A third way…

  • protects human dignity at all costs (i.e. you don’t have to take this).
  • takes tremendous strength, courage, creativity and spinal fortitude (revenge doesn’t take strength, it’s the easy way out).
  • leaves room for the other party to change (i.e. repentance)

When you return the wrong, you elliminate the chance of the other person repenting. You always have options. When wronged, always ask, “Is there a third way here?”; a third way can open the door for you to share the gospel.

About forty minutes in, Bell shares a very tough story involving a member of Mars Hill who went through a very abusive marriage and how the third way applies in that type of situation.

You always have options.

ESV Bible +

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I just downloaded the all new Crossway ESV Bible + app, available now in Apple’s app store!

What’s different from Crossway’s free ESV Bible app?

In addition to everything included in the free app, the ESV Bible + app includes the ESV Study Bible!
From the iTunes ESV Bible + page:

The ESV Study Bible at your fingertips. Carry your ESV Study Bible with you wherever, whenever, and share with whomever you want! Crossway is excited to provide the highly regarded content of the ESV Study Bible which includes:

  • 20,000 notes focused on especially understanding the Bible
  • 2 million words of Bible text and insightful teaching
  • Over 50 articles
  • Over 200 full-color maps
  • 200-plus charts
  • 80,000 cross-references
  • 40 new illustrations

In addition, the app has a feature I’ve yet to see in other Bible apps – AUDIO!!

Sounds crazy, but faith comes by hearing (Romans 10:17). Sometimes you need not only to read, but to hear the word of God.

Anyways, seeing as how the ESV translation is my favorite, I went ahead and purchased the ESV Bible + app. At $9.99, I believe it’s well within the budgets of most iPhone and iPad users, and it’s definitely worth the price in my opinion. While the YouVersion Bible app still has a place on my iPhone, the ESV Bible + app is going to be go to Bible app from now on.

ESV Bible + app Screenshots from iPhone 4 (click to enlarge):

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So, Tuesday I turned 28.

Doesn’t feel much different than 27.

Anna took me out to dinner at Longhorn’s Steakhouse to celebrate and also got me three books: The Seven Storey Mountain and No Man Is An Island by Thomas Merton, and The Heroin Diaries by Nikki Sixx. Then yesterday she threw a whisk(e)y tasting for my birthday party, complete with a cake that was made to resemble a sushi roll! For any concerned parties, no one overindulged – there was no drunkenness or gluttony, and pix of the cake and the whisk(e)ies can be seen over on my Flickr page.

Anyways, seeing as how it’s Sunday – time for my favorite posts of the last seven days!

News:

Blogs:

…if necessary, use words?

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Preach the gospel always; if necessary, use words.

For years I’ve heard and seen people use that quote to sum up the missional lifestyle and missional church. And why not – at first glance it sounds great. Most people have interpreted it to mean “don’t just preach with words, but preach with actions”.

But that’s the problem – the quote requires interpretation. It’s not that it’s multi-faceted or really deep, it just doesn’t make much sense. It’s the equivalent of saying “Give me your telephone number; if necessary, use digits.”

Even worse, for years this quote has been attributed to Saint Francis of Assisi, yet there is no record of him ever having said or written this statement.

Maybe, just maybe, it comes down to this: without the gospel, good works are nothing more than good works, and the gospel, when not lived out, is nothing more than hypocrisy.

HT: Jared Wilson

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Went to Shreveport/Bossier City, LA for vacation the first half of this week and had a wonderful time. Between the Boardwalk, Barksdale AFB and Youree Drive I think I packed a lot into four days, and on a low budget too. To see some of the pics, click here.

Also, if you haven’t yet seen Inception, what are you waiting for? Definitely the best movie of the Summer to date.

Anyways, here’s some of the posts I came across in the last seven days that really stood out.

People of the Second Chance have cranked out a few new desktop & iPhone backgrounds.

Thomas Nelson CEO Michael Hyatt with some great advice – Don’t Wrestle With Pigs.

Tired of churches that try to sell you on the “Jesus makes everything better” idea (as if Jesus were some sort of condiment)? Instead of McDonalds, try McJesus!

How important is The Virgin Birth to the Christian faith?

I’ll admit, I’m torn on this post. Both parents are retired Marines, so I was raised to be grateful that I live in America. While far from perfect, I truly believe there is no better place to live. BUT…… it’s those imperfections which cause me to at least agree in part with Celeste in her post on why national flags don’t belong in church.

A very moving post from Carole Turner that epitomizes what being missional is all about - Sharon Is A Prostitute.

John Piper answers the question: When Should You Confront Someone About Their Sin?

Paul Allen on how having a vision statement doesn’t mean you have vision.

Jesus commanded us to “love one another”, yet, at times, that command is very difficult to obey. Jo Hilder breaks down why it’s so hard to love others.

“It’s always easier to call fear something other than ‘fear’.” – Scott Hodge on Spiritualizing Fear

Jared Wilson asks, “Could persecution, should it come, be the best thing to happen to the American church?” in his post The Blessing of Persecution.

When’s the last time you were talking to someone face-to-face and, at the same time, texting, Twittering or on Facebook? A very, very insightful post from Tim Stevens advising us that wherever you are… be fully there.

“Most of us have said (or at least thought) at some point, ‘I wish God would just show up and speak.’ The truth is, he has.” – Jamie Munson on Everything God Wanted To Say.

Bryan Roberts discusses the dangers of thinking your church is the best church.

Sometimes I like what Glenn Beck has to say. Other times…… well, let’s just say this is one of those other times. Julie Clawson on Glenn Beck and A Neighborless Christianity.

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